One thing I did not expect in parenting is the irrationality. Crying jags that come out of seemingly nowhere just floor me. I'm learning to not try to fix it right away, but to wait for her to calm down before I try an intervention of any kind. It's getting better, dare I say.
She's such an amazing, smart, funny girl. She really has a great sense of humor. I feel so blessed that I have the privilege to parent another human being. I try not to think too much about the importance of this job.
I like to remember the saying, I'm not sure who said it, "Life is too important to take seriously." I didn't get it at first. I mean this life stuff IS serious especially the whole parenting thing.
But as I approach the midway point in life, yes I do expect to live to be 100 so I can consider myself to be middle aged, the more I realize the importance of enjoying the present moment.
I've spent enough years worrying for this lifetime and the next. So I'm trying not to teach my daughter to worry while still teaching her the importance of planning ahead and being responsible.
Summer will be here soon and there are several things I'd like to do. But I also want to just enjoy the moment with her and make some happy memories while teaching her the importance of responsibility, being a good friend, a caring citizen, gaining math skills so she's prepared for a career that can support her so she doesn't have to live with us at the nursing home, learning to sew, cook, swim, ride a bicycle, deal with bullies, learn self-defense, encourage her artistic abilities, and continue in group sports to learn good sportsmanship and to build athletic skills....
Most importantly I want her to learn to stop and enjoy the moment and laugh at herself when she gets too serious. Fortunately, she has a funny daddy who helps us both laugh. Thanks John.